The Grass Is Green…


Experiences of a city-dweller who chose to live a ‘romantic’ life in rural India.

A farmer with cattle on his paddyfields

A farmer with cattle on his paddyfields

Almost every middle-aged person gets this idea once in a while: Chuck it all and leave the stressful, polluted cities and live a semi-retired life in a calm, serene village somewhere deep inside rural India, of which we have heard hundreds of romantic stories from comics and storybooks in our childhood.

Remember Ramu and Deepa travelling by train to their old, yet loveable grandfather’s house in a remote village, almost always next to a small river, and always having an adventure along with their village bumpkin cousins during their vacations? And remember granny’s yummy-yummy dishes made from vegetables freshly harvested in their farms? And, ahem, them naughty squirrels?

Yes! Everyone wants to do that: grow some vegetables, some beautiful flowers, have a chicken coop so we can get farm fresh eggs every day and then slaughter the chicken when some of our city friends arrive to see the glorious life we are living; healthy, self-sustaining lives, and live happily forever and forever…

All on our own two-three acre farm, our own village-type house (a compromise for a farmhouse or a bungalow), with the sounds from dawn to dusk of chirping birds and mooing cows; and fireflies lighting up our lives at nights; romantic dinners under the glare of the full moon—forget the frequent power cuts—and kids dancing like peacocks in the monsoon…

A couple of weeks ago, I happened to bump into a high-flying, globe hopping director, energy, of a petroleum major based out of a Gulf country and whose chairman was a member of the royal family.

The talks veered about how I happened to reach this small town. After listening me out, he said: “Aaaah! Wish even I could also retire a village life”.

To good effect, he added: “That is my aim… maybe next year”.

At the same time, he was working the phones and the net doing his business, almost round the clock.

Being born and brought up in Bombay (it became Mumbai after I left) and having visited New Delhi quite often at an early age and having pursued my profession in Hyderabad and in Dubai, United Arab Emirates—I became ‘directionless’ like any other hardworking yet ‘suitably unrewarded’ professional with raised stress, lipid and glycaemic levels: I decided, enough is enough. No more city life for me.

I had not been able to save a single cent in my low-paying profession from 1980. Over that, senior professional positions meant glib-talking bank salesmen buzzed around me like bees and offers of ‘easy money’ in the form of credit cards, personal loans, etc.

I fell hook, line and sinker into the trap. I availed of these and further sank deeper into the debt swamp.

In Dubai, an international bank used to offer personal loans and credit cards on easy terms to anyone with a valid employment visa who just walked out of the airport for the first time; and the glamorous shopping malls, etc. I took it.

The few years there, my wife and me saw our stress levels shoot up like a rocket and we always had shouting matches over trivial issues: she once even threatened to leave me and go back to her parents’ house, taking the kids along with her. Ours was an arranged marriage, yet we were deeply in love with each other. But Tayyabali, or the financial temptations, was the ‘pyar ka dushman’.

In my job, I had a good time, getting rewarded with promotions and salary hikes for a great performance over those who have been working there for years. But soon things changed and when it came to a head one fine day, I had to quit. We had about a month to pack up and leave. I used up all my employment benefits for the full and final settlement of my credit cards and loans.

We, along with our kids, landed in India, afresh and penniless. This was a moment of ‘realization’ for me!

No more the temptations of a city life!

As a heart patient with high sugar and cholesterol levels, I decided that I wanted a quiet, calm life in some green, dream heaven: A village in a remote part of rural India.

Providence made me compromise, between a small town having fairly good educational institutions for the future of my children, a modern multi-speciality hospital, no tempting shopping malls and the rural life I envisaged. Just three kms away from the educational, medical and banking hub of Manipal, I pitched my tents, so to say, in a village called Parkala!

We started using shovels and pickaxes, digging up trenches, growing vegetables like okra, beans, spinach and so on. We had our relatives, ‘them city dwellers’ come and visit us to savour our pollution-free rural ambience.

We took vicarious pleasure in talking about how we go for a picnic followed by a dip in the nearby river, how we work hard in our garden, how we get fresh vegetables, etc.

But we realised that all our romantic dreams were just a mirage.

Simply put, farming was no easy job. Almost always, it was my wife who did all the dirty work: Digging, removing the weeds, setting up support for the creepers, chopping off tree branches, allowing me frequent respites because of my health condition.

Yet, she enjoyed all this and maintained a lovely figure. And I enjoyed helping her whenever possible.

The Friday santhe (market) at Parkala

The Friday santhe (market) at Parkala

Ours was just a small patch, literally, less than half an acre. Religiously, we used to go the local Friday santhe (market) and purchase our needs. For about Rs100-150 or so, we had vegetables for the entire week.

We also bumped into many people with farming as their ancestral and life-long occupation.

Hearing their woes, I realised, the village life is far, far from tranquil and definitely not as romantic as we have always imagined. I very well remember the proverb: The grass is green on the other side…

Having said a part of my story, I will now write about how common folks go about their lives in rural India and the issues they face. Keep reading.


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